Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Thoughts of Love // Part Two

This next part might be hard to think about, at first. For me, though, it goes along the lines of love being selfless. 

"Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful.... Love does not insist on its own way." (1 Cor 13:4-5, RSV) 

All too often, we are told that to be in love means pining after someone, and not resting or feeling a moment's peace until they are with us. We see in movies and shows people trying to sabotage their "true love's" relationships, or even just trying to win them over while they're in a relationship with someone else so that their loved one will realize that the person is "the one for them." But think about that. If you really love someone, you want them to be happy. And since when do we know what will make another person truly happy? Maybe they would be happier with someone other than us. What makes us happy is not always going to make someone else happy. Not to say that we can't be sad if someone we love doesn't return the feeling. It does hurt. But I think that if we truly love a person, we will be happy for them no matter what they choose, as long as it's not a harmful decision. We will respect their relationships; we won't flirt with our crush when they are already with someone else, etc. To me, that shows the person more love and respect than it does when we throw ourselves at them and try to show them that we're so much better than whoever they're with.

Let's be respectful to each other, and truly love each other.

is there any way to describe wanting to be together with someone, but also being happy when they're with another?

you know you love them and they might never know, but that's okay.

you love them so much that you just want the best for them, no matter what that may be.

you know you should be jealous, but why force a wrong feeling when you can just be grateful that they're happy?

Do you agree with me? Or do I just not understand what it's like to be in love? Chat with me in the comments below! And, as always, thank you so much for reading, everyone!

- Maddie

Tuesday, November 8, 2016

Thoughts of Love // Part One

So, here goes another apology:

I'm so sorry that I never stick to my schedule, even when I say I'm going to. You guys don't deserve that.

I'm also going to say right now that there are times when I simply cannot write. The words won't come out, or if they do, they don't come out how I want them to, and I would rather you have nothing to read than say something that I really want to say in words that don't describe exactly what I really mean. I don't want to have to say, "You know a few weeks ago when I mentioned such-and-such? Okay, now I've thought of a better way to explain it."

So, that's why I haven't been posting lately. I'm not going to promise that there will be a post every Tuesday, but I'm also not going to say that I won't have a post schedule at all. So, let's just say that when I do post, it will be on Tuesdays, whether that be 3 Tuesdays in a row or 5 Tuesdays apart.

Now, Thoughts of Love // Part One

At first, I was going to combine a bunch of different thoughts about love all together in this post, but I think I'm going to make them into three or maybe more separate parts to be posted over the next few weeks; sometimes it's easier to process things in small bits instead of all at once. So here is part one. It wasn't meant to be a poem when I first wrote it: writing in short sentences on different lines helps me to process and write down my thoughts better. But then I realized that more of the lines rhymed than I'd thought, so it is practically a poem. :)

You don't always have to be the best.
It's not a competition to see
Who can show 
Who likes whom the most profoundly.
Is this love?
I think so.
I think it's being willing to do
Anything for the one you love,
And also being willing for them to do
Anything for you.
Love is me letting you be you
And you letting me be me
And neither of us feeling like we have to
Repay or outdo the other in 
Giving gifts or energy.

Have a great week, everyone! Thank you for reading. :)

- Maddie